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Sexuality Issues for Women Being Treated for Cancer

When you are having treatment for cancer, you may have side effects that affect your physical response to sex. You may also have changing feelings about who you are, how you feel about yourself, and how you feel about your relationships. All of these feelings can influence your sexuality.

Gender words are used here to talk about anatomy and health risk. Please use this information in a way that works best for you and your provider as you talk about your care.

How cancer treatment may affect sexuality

Sexuality not only refers to sexual intercourse, but to other means of sexual expression, such as touching and kissing. Treatment for cancer can cause many changes that may affect your sexuality. It can also change the physical or emotional closeness you share with another person. Different treatments can cause different physical and psychological changes that can affect how you feel, look, and function. These changes may be short-term (temporary), or they may last a long time.

Treatment may affect you physically so that your body doesn’t respond sexually the way you’ve learned to expect. These are some of the sexual changes that you may have during treatment for cancer.

  • Inability to get pregnant (infertility)

  • Low sexual desire

  • Painful intercourse

  • Trouble reaching orgasm

  • Vaginal dryness

  • Vaginal shortening or narrowing

  • Higher risk of infection

All of these changes can affect a woman’s sexuality and her ability and interest in sexual activity.

Self-esteem and body image are important factors that define how a woman feels about herself. If your feelings about yourself and your body change, it can influence how you feel about being intimate with others. These are some of the side effects of treatment that may affect your body image.

  • Anxiety

  • Severe tiredness (fatigue)

  • Hair loss

  • Menopause, brought on by cancer treatment

  • Pain

  • Weight changes

  • Changes in appearance after surgery

  • Bowel and bladder problems

  • Skin problems

Questions to ask before treatment

Many people are uncomfortable talking about sex. It may help to bring up the subject with your healthcare team before you start treatment so you are better prepared for how it may affect you sexually. Take the time to gather as much information as possible. Think about asking your partner to be with you during these discussions. Here are some questions you may want to ask your healthcare team before treatment:

  • How will my cancer and its treatment affect my desire for sex?

  • How will it affect my sexual function?

  • How long will these changes last?

  • What can I do about them?

  • Will I cause harm to myself or to my partner if I have sex?

  • Are there any restrictions that I should be aware of? Should I avoid certain types of sex or positions?

  • Will treatment affect my ability to have children?

Talking about sexual changes

Whether the changes are short-term, or they last longer, you can find ways to feel good about yourself and be intimate with your partner. It is important to remember to be patient and give yourself time.

Express what is happening and how you feel. You may feel awkward talking about sexual issues and might find it hard to be honest about how you feel. Your partner and even your healthcare team might wait for you to bring up the subject of sex because they don’t want to make you feel uncomfortable. It can be helpful, though, if you ask questions and talk about your sexual issues or concerns. Use these questions to help you put your feelings into words and better communicate with others about your experience.

  • How has my illness changed the way I see myself and feel about myself?

  • How has my illness interfered with my role as partner?

  • How has my illness affected my sexual functioning or response?

Talk with your healthcare team. If you notice sexual changes, tell your healthcare provider or nurse. They may be able to ease some of the side effects of treatment. Being able to talk about these issues, in particular, may help you.

  • If you have any concerns about sexual activity, ask your healthcare team. It’s important to not let fear keep you from experiencing intimacy.

  • Report vaginal discharge or bleeding, fever, or pain to your team. Treatments may be available to manage these problems.

  • Discuss treatment choices with your healthcare team if you have menopause symptoms because of cancer treatment.

It might be helpful to talk with social workers, counselors, or other women in support groups. Your healthcare provider may be able to refer you to someone.

Coping with sexual changes

After cancer treatment, something that can help you maintain or restore sexual energy is to focus on your physical recovery by eating a healthy diet and being active. This can help you feel better mentally and physically. Remember that your partner is also affected by your cancer, so talk about both of your feelings and fears. It can also help to explore different ways of showing love, such as hugging and holding, stroking and caressing, or talking. When you are being intimate, use these tips to help make the experience a positive one.

  • If needed, use birth control during cancer treatment so you don’t have to worry about getting pregnant.

  • Choose a time for intimacy when you and your partner are rested and free from distractions.

  • Create a romantic mood.

  • If your feelings about how your body looks keeps you from being intimate, use dim lights, wigs, lingerie, and other things to cover wounds or scars.

  • If pain or nausea prevents you from being intimate, try taking pain or nausea medicines prescribed by your healthcare provider 30 to 60 minutes beforehand.

  • If needed, use a water-soluble lubricant for intercourse when using condoms. If you are not using condoms, you can use water-based or silicone-based lubricants.

  • Try different positions until you find 1 that is more comfortable and less tiring for you. Use pillows for added comfort.

  • Remember that cancer is not contagious, and that being intimate will not cause the cancer to come back or grow.

  • Relax and try to find humor where you can.

Online Medical Reviewer: Jessica Gotwals RN BSN MPH
Online Medical Reviewer: Rita Sather RN
Online Medical Reviewer: Todd Gersten MD
Date Last Reviewed: 7/1/2023
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